A natural female walk can help your passability and compensate for flaws in your appearance . . .

Either walking in an overly-effeminate manner, or in a stiff male walk, will tend to make people stare at you and increase your chances of being read.

How do you develop a natural female walk? Practice. Unlearning your male walk and developing a female walk may take some time. Females have had all their lives to be socialized in being feminine, so by the time they're adults it comes naturally. Also, their bodies are put together differently and move differently. Strive for a naturalness that you don't have to think about.

What is the essence of the female walk? Go to a place where there are lots of people and observe how women walk. How her arms and legs move. How she carries herself. How she holds her head. Your goal is not to invent a totally new walk—that will look unnatural—rather integrate a feminine style into your own gait.

Women have naturally looser bodies. This is probably due somewhat to less muscle mass than males, but also to evolution. Females, being the child bearers, need a more flexible body to accommodate the changes her body goes through during pregnancy and childbirth. Women's forearms are connected at their elbows at a more obtuse angle than males, so they swing farther out and don't hit their wider hips when walking. You can accomplish this by putting your arms down at your sides and rotating your hands 45 degrees away from your body, so your forearms face forward. This will allow your forearms to swing out in a more female manner. Curl your fingers up into your palms when you walk.

When standing still, and sometimes when walking, women tend to hold their arms above their waistline. This is the typical female way of holding one's arms and is the main difference in how men and women hold their arms. However, this can look too effeminate if you walk all the time with your arms above your waist. If you carry a purse, try holding onto the strap with one hand and let the other arm swing free. Allow your arms to swing freer from where they join your shoulders.

When you rest your hands on your hips, turn your hands so your fingers are facing backwards and thumbs forward.

Males usually have larger and more muscular shoulders than women, but there's something you can do to minimize them. Men generally hunch their shoulders forward, probably to emphasize their musculature and as a sign of aggressiveness. Women, on the other hand, tend to draw their shoulders back. Stand in front of a mirror and hunch your shoulders forward, then back. They will look noticeably smaller pulled back. This will also help your arms swing in a more feminine manner.

Females have wider pelvises and a higher fat distribution on their hips. This gives them the characteristic feminine swaying hips that's so attractive. Males generally have smaller hips and less fat in this area. Taking hormones will encourage female fat distribution on your hips and thighs [depending on what age you started and genetics], or you can wear padding. You want to give yourself the loose, swaying motion of the hips without looking put on. Female's legs swing looser from the knees. Walking in the classic female gait of putting one foot in front of the other will move your hips more, but again don't over do it. Find a compromise between the stiffer male walk and being overly-effeminate. Practice in front of a mirror and find a gait that's feminine, but not overly effeminate.

Women tend to slightly bob, or nod their heads from the chin, when walking. Men hold their heads stiffer with the straight-back, stiff-necked military posture being the extreme. Also, a woman's head pivots from the top of her neck, whereas a man's head tends to move more with his neck.

Don't continually look down at the ground or obviously avoid looking at people. This will tend to get you read since people will sense you're self-consciousness. One day while driving through town I saw what I thought could be a crossdresser, but wasn't sure as I was too far away to see any details. What gave her away was avoiding looking at people and looking down at the ground. If she had been walking confidently, with her head up, I wouldn't have read her so quick.

The purpose of passing is to not make someone pause and take second looks at you. Unless you're attractive and then it's a compliment!

Men are socialized to be aggressive and it shows in their walk. They tend to lean forward when they walk, probably in an attempt to get where they're going faster and push their way through crowds. Females are socialized for unaggressvieness and tend to yield and hesitate more when walking. Don't stride out in your masculine, aggressive gait. You're a woman! Hesitate more. Yield to people coming towards you. Don't be meek, but polite and yielding.

Glance at people's faces. If they look back you can gage by their expression how they're reading you. Smile. Nobody likes looking at a grump, whether you're a man or a woman.

Women and men smile differently, too. Men tend to have the classic wide, show a lot of teeth, nice-to-meet-you-businessman smile. Women tend to smile more with their lips closed, or just part of their teeth showing, especially when meeting strangers. Also, the sides of their mouth's are more upturned. Observe how women smile, in magazines and real life. Practice in a mirror until you see a woman smiling back at you!

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